Kinky Salon: Calling out and remixing racism

I am compelled to republishing this brilliant response to Kinky Salon’s public apology. A little back story… Kinky Salon organised a spring “sex-positive”  party in London with a “jungle theme”.  In addition to the apology Kinky Salon published their summary of criticisms……[these are also dealt with by Racism Remixed.]

That the connection of a party that pertains to be sex-positive to tribal costumes, apes and so on, carries with it a subtext of racism and imperialism, and therefore fails to be sex-positive for everyone.

– That the way we presented this particular jungle-themed party, with a title parodying The Jungle Book, drew upon a text that is often interpreted as imperialist and racist. See: http://movies.dowse.com/junglebook_article.html

– That the dress-up suggestions, referencing books/films like Heart of Darkness, The African Queen, and Tarzan drew upon texts containing narratives that are often interpreted as racist — see Wikipedia.

On the basis of the above, Kinky Salon offered an apology -see here and below is one response to that apology by Racism Remixed….

Dear Kinky Salon Friends,

We’d like to take a moment to apologiseto anyone who we upset or offended in the presentation of our Spring party and to thank them for providing Kinky Salon London with the opportunity for growth and improvement.Isn’t it great how life furnishes white people with so many opportunities? Thanks guys!

For those members of our community who might be unaware of this, some visitors to our Facebook event page raised objections to aspects of the jungle theme that we originally put forward. The arguments are summarised here. Although only a small number of the people who objected have ever been to a Kinky Salon party (and let’s face it: people of colour who haven’t attended a Kinky Salon party have no worthwhile life experiences and don’t know what they’re talking about when it comes to racism), we take all feedback into consideration and have written to each of our critics personally(with a generic message). We acknowledge that some people found our literary references particularly careless (and we do admit that we can be careless — the other day we put milk in the cupboard instead of the fridge. Imagine!) and that for others a jungle theme itself is uncomfortable. By others we mean the other, as in, people of colour, and by uncomfortable, we mean the kind of feeling you get when you wear trousers that are too tight. In failing to take these perspectives into account, aspects of our original theme were interpreted by some as naive and insensitive to issues of race and imperialism (sorry if this sentence is a little long — it’s the result of an informal contest we held to see who could talk the longest about racism without using the actual word racism). We are grateful to those who have opened our eyes to this. We could have gone to Specsavers but we opted to get this kind of eye care for free, from people of colour.  Continue reading …….