Comments on: A different type of sex http://www.blacklooks.org/2008/03/a_different_type_of_sex.html black looks Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:04:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Sokari http://www.blacklooks.org/2008/03/a_different_type_of_sex.html#comment-96985 Sokari Fri, 28 Mar 2008 19:53:04 +0000 http://www.blacklooks.org/2008/03/a_different_type_of_sex.html#comment-96985 I think at the very minimum one has to try to dig deep and listen and know the choices made are not easy. There is much truth in what the writer says. Sex is not the only way to sell oneself and as she says at least she is up front and honest about what she is selling and getting paid for. I think a lot of feminism has done just that - lost the critique and stuck on the edict. I think at the very minimum one has to try to dig deep and listen and know the choices made are not easy. There is much truth in what the writer says. Sex is not the only way to sell oneself and as she says at least she is up front and honest about what she is selling and getting paid for. I think a lot of feminism has done just that - lost the critique and stuck on the edict.

]]> By: darkdaughta http://www.blacklooks.org/2008/03/a_different_type_of_sex.html#comment-96982 darkdaughta Fri, 28 Mar 2008 18:45:51 +0000 http://www.blacklooks.org/2008/03/a_different_type_of_sex.html#comment-96982 I think that if we were to listen to them rather than speak at them or organize on their behalfs, we would discover that, like the rest of us, their beliefs about who they are and what they do, fall along a continuum. Is it really so difficult for us to realize that they have many different experiences and many different voices telling sometimes radically different stories with radically different takes on the same set of issues? I guess this is me saying we don't have to stomach what they do, we don't have to make the same choices or send our daughters out to do that work. Perhaps we could just take the heat off them so they can decide how best to proceed in their uncovering of what has been done to them and by who. Their perspectives aren't going to all line up with ours. That's because their perspectives are their own. Thanks for wading in a more complicated way that allows for a feminist critique to emerge rather than a feminist edict. I think that if we were to listen to them rather than speak at them or organize on their behalfs, we would discover that, like the rest of us, their beliefs about who they are and what they do, fall along a continuum. Is it really so difficult for us to realize that they have many different experiences and many different voices telling sometimes radically different stories with radically different takes on the same set of issues?

I guess this is me saying we don’t have to stomach what they do, we don’t have to make the same choices or send our daughters out to do that work. Perhaps we could just take the heat off them so they can decide how best to proceed in their uncovering of what has been done to them and by who.

Their perspectives aren’t going to all line up with ours. That’s because their perspectives are their own.

Thanks for wading in a more complicated way that allows for a feminist critique to emerge rather than a feminist edict.

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