Making Black Girls “Ladylike”
This is an article I wrote that is also published over at Wiretap Magazine; Find more stuff @ Kameelahwrites
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I have been convinced that many large public schools function like factory systems. You pop in one student and with the appropriate manipulations, the necessary conveyor belt rides and some pedagogical alchemy and you get the school product: a depoliticized consumer who is more prepared to select the next game system to buy then to think critically about the social context that shapes his financially struggling neighborhood. John Dewey alludes to it, and Paulo Freire explicitly discusses it.
Sure, there is something more nuanced going on here with respect to student agency and the specificity of the school site etc., but follow my logic, even if incredulously so. Maybe, these are just the cliff note ramblings of Marxist critique or the strategic staging for the theatrical introduction of radical pedagogy, but ramblings and stagings that should not be so hastily abandoned.
Humor me for a moment, if we think about this factory model of education seriously, is it possible that schools are a site of (re)production? Do schools try to make certain type of students? What are the implications of this process? A new Gender Public Advocacy Coalition (GenderPAC) report found that teachers tend to view the behavior of black girls as not “ladylike” and therefore focus disciplinary action on encouraging behaviors like passivity, deference, and bodily control at the expense of curiosity, outspokenness, and assertiveness.
Based on two years’ observation at a Texas middle school, the Ohio University study found that teachers’ class-and-race-based assumptions of black femininity made them more likely to discourage behaviors and characteristics that lead to class involvement and educational success.
Sadly, reports like these never seem to surprise me and now I have converted that management of surprise into excavating for deeper ideas and questions. This study makes me laugh, in a serious way of course, at how so many folks want to latch on to this idea of a “culture of poverty” of “hip-hop” or whatever to blame for the academic achievement of Black students, but what about the cultures of gendered muteness, and racialized womanhood rearing that explicitly train young Black women in behaviors that militate against their “educational success”?
Looking at the intersection of race, gender, capitalism and pedagogy, the disciplinary efforts and hidden curriculum are working toward a desired young Black woman — one who does not ask too many questions, accepts the power arrangements in schools and becomes a proper young lady — pink bows and all. Schools since their inception have been focused on the poetics of assimilation and thus are sites of production not only for the ready-made American citizen who does not challenge his government or is a depoliticized consumers, but the “acceptable” Black woman who is docile, domesticated and unchallenging.
Maybe, I am reading too much in to this — maybe, I am making this more teleological than necessary, but something just isn’t right when young Black female students are being punished for participating in discussions and standing up for themselves. Something just is not right when as it is described in Edward W. Morris’ 2007 paper, “‘Ladies’ or ‘Loudies’? Perceptions and Expectations of Black Girls in Classrooms,” that there is “less attention on the academic progress of Black girls, and more attention on their comportment and social decorum.”
In this same paper, Morris argues that there is a desire to have young Black women assimilate to prototypical White middle-class views of femininity that necessitate a certain level of docility and complacency. The GenderPAC report noted that “many teachers described black female students as too sexually provocative in dress and behavior.”
Enter stage left: the endurance of historical stereotypes of Black women and hypersexuality. I am wondering how large the gap is between perception and real life and irrespective of this perceptions, schools should not become informal charm schools for young Black women who haven’t acquired the “proper” accoutrements of “ladylike” behavior.
While the report quickly asserts that “The teachers’ actions appeared to be less the result of conscious racism or sexism than an unwitting tendency to view the behavior of black girls through a different lens than that of their peers,” I am inclined to believe that if these actions are not the result of conscious racism or sexism, then we can look to unconscious racism or sexism.
Possibly, we can look to a sincere, yet dangerous desire to just make young Black women “fit” for the world they will enter. Maybe, there is a power play between young Black women and their perceptions of legitimate authority and the assertion of authority by teachers who young Black women do not feel have the right to assert that power. I do want to make it clear that the GenderPAC study is not about some universal rendering of what it means to be girl; rather, it is a very specific issue about the intersections between race, class, gender, sexuality and how such intersections are articulated in pedagogy.
These are attitudes about the proper roles for young Black women that are articulated in other spaces, out in the so-called “real world.” I cannot tell you how many times my assertiveness and unwillingness to accept unsubstantiated narratives as “being out of my place,” “bitchy” or “aggressive” (read: unladylike). Yes, I have been called a bitch, uppity, you name it. I have been told to shut up. I have been “asked” just to go along with the flow without questions. At first, I thought it was just what it was — I always had an opinion, then it realized that I always had an opinion with too much melanin and without the licensing appendage between my legs.
There was a point in my pre-teen years where I sported black combat boots, over-sized green jeans, a big white tee and sandy cornrows. I always had something to say and usually never backed down from a game of verbal gynmastics, especially with men because I’d been raised on the ethic of never letting people talk down to you, especially men. Still assertive and probably a bit stubborn, now I just rock the hijab, maybe some dark kohl eyeliner for a brief feminine interruption and Etnies or Chuck Taylors to perform such a clever manuveur as not to commit myself to uncomfortable and invasive renderings of how to be “girl.”
Ten years and numerous unintentionally comedic monologues later, I have gotten over my guilt about gendered apostasy and asserted that my vagina should not dictate the way I speak or act. From all my years of womanhood molding, the one lesson I took away (in the process of disposing others) was how to deliver my sarcasm and critique with subtle grace — a seemingly compromising tactic that is actually made my acerbic sarcasm just that much more entertaining (well, at least to me) as folks try to figure out if the quiet girl in the dark hijab intended for her last comment with and underlying ad hominem to be directed at them.
With all the TV ads and teen fashion magazine articles (which I so ardently follow) that have co-opted radical feminism as a trendy apolitical lifestyle and naively argue that women are able to break out of traditional gender roles, it makes me wonder what does being a “girl” mean? and when does being a “girl” start and end? What is ladylike?
I finally caught the video of Ciara’s “Like a Boy” on YouTube and was amused by the responses of folks who were a bit “thrown” by the video. I am wondering if folks were that thrown by the performance of breaking gender roles by seemingly intangible person (sometime celebrity status makes these people “unreal” to me, call it silly), then how must they respond to a real “live” person who thinks that gender roles are choreographed actions that can and must always be interrupted.
If in the real world we must break these choreographed actions, then in classrooms which are often the microcosm of this “real world,” young Black women must also continue to break this choreography as what is learned must be unlearned. Maybe folks are coming around to this idea of schools as sites of (re)production. And if they are such sites, how do we throw a wrench in the machine to halt the production of muted young Black women.
Moreso, how do we disrupt the culture of schooling as a site where students are directed, produced and dealt with en masse? Taneika Taylor, the director of GenderPAC’s “Children as They Are” program suggests that “[i]f our own unconscious stereotypes are prompting teachers to ‘correct’ those behaviors in young black girls, school systems need to look carefully at including this problem of teachers’ perceptions and assumptions in their diversity training.”
Let’s not get me started on “diversity training” or the word “diversity” itself. I am thinking that working on the individual attitudes of teachers is a good start, but disrupting a schooling culture of (re)production and complacency will take more than a weekend retreat at the Hyatt and discussions about celebrating token differences.
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A good article, if not a little verbose. I like what you say but the language you use make it inaccessible to the people who really need to read it!
In the UK there is a lot of focus on the performance of black males in school. Very little is said about black females but I believe they suffer the same fate as the black Texan girls you described earlier.
The unconscious racism you described, its cultural, a trip to the Hyatt, will not solve the problem. The way black women are portrayed in the media needs to change asap!
JohnN, a definitely fair assessment. I do actually apologize for that. I have been writing academic papers non stop and sometimes it is hard to remember to switch out of that mode. I am glad you called me on that.
and I will work on making it accessible. I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with my writing and am not sure how I maintain my sanity while making much of my writing public considering I get so hyper metacognitive about my writing. But, again, thanks for calling me out on that.
Yea, folks aren’t all that interested in talking about Black girls in school which is why I was really excited to find this study. I think we often have the tendency of just lumping Black youth into one big category without differentiation in gender, class etc.
Let’s not even get started on portrayal of Black women in the media! That is a whole new volume of blog entries!
Thanks for stopping by
Peace,
Kameelah
Kameelah… don’t dumb down your language for the masses! I have always thought about “accessible” vs “non-accessible” language and writing/blogging. It’s clear you are an academic, and that’s great.
On the topic of your post, I’m adopting a kid right now and studies like the one you mentioned are prime examples of why I believe in home schooling.
Kym Platt
Its not about dumbing down. Its about accessibility. How do you expect ideas to spread if people cannot easy relay them to the next person?
As fot improving your writing, check out this book (there may be a newer edition). Ive just read it is great. I think a good way to go with writing is to be yourself. Don’t write anything you wouldn’t say in a conversation.
http://www.amazon.com/Writing-Well-25th-Anniversary-Nonfiction/dp/0060006641
John,
Are you saying I need to improve my writing? Thanks for the dis.
BTW, I write everything I would say in a conversation, even if the conversation is taking place in my own head.
John @ Kameelah back in the mid 70s Paul Willis wrote “Learning to Labour” (standard Uni text at least up until the mid 80s). A research based critique of the school system in the UK in which children are selected at an early age into ability groups based on their labour potential. The interesting thing is that Willis believed the “lads” chose to reject school and thereby fail because they know they have already been chosen to fail and supply the low paid labour market.
I raised three Black boys in the UK school system and I would say the research you refer to could just as well apply to Black boys and girls in the UK. The racism is very conscious and any kind of assertiveness is labled “difficult” or “aggressive”. I believe rejection of school by Black kids is also a strategy used because they are aware of the institutional racism in which the school system functions. I was talking to one of my sons very recently about his school experience. He was always top of the class etc etc. However hetold me that when his younger brother joined the school and was picked on and humiliated by the teachers he (the older brother) chose to fight back by being as obnoxious and difficult as possible (refusing to play in any of the school sports teams – arguing with teachers etc) as he felt that was the only way he could protest at his brothers treatment by the teachers. I didn’t even know any of this was going on!
I went through the same process myself when I was sent to the UK from Nigeria at 15. My school experience was incredibly racist and because it was a boarding school I had no relief. I chose to reject everything and everyone as my own way to survive the horrors and humiliations of daily life. My resulting failure stayed mattered little what mattered was staying sane. Needless to say I was later able to enter higher education via an adult route and if that is a measure of educational success then I guess I made it.
Regarding language. I dont think Kameelah is “verbose” in her language. However I do think it is important that we do consider the reader when we write. Language should be accessible if it is to be used as a tool to inform, educate and to trigger thought processes and I am glad that Kameelah is aware of that and wishes to take it on board.
Very interesting discussions going on here.
Kameelah, I understand and read the passion in your writing. I understand too that as a woman, specifically, a Black woman we want our critical thoughts (and just thoughts) to be seriously regarded. Essentially, you, me and we want validation. You have it!
Your ideas have birthed two important discussions. Who determines the language accessibility of what YOU say.
Yes, there are rules of writing, BUT, it is more important to WRITE! Your conciseness of thought, IF that is what YOU think you need evolves with the writing. What is more important is getting the message(s) out for whomever!
I found your essay accessible. As I stated before, I understand the passion to ‘put it out there.’ I also note the stylistic mannerisms of writers, as I did with your piece which encompasses a lot of passion, thinking, and making connections.
In a way the topic of your essay is supported by the comments of JohnN. Although, he compliments you for a hearty discourse, he in essence backhands you with the ‘inaccessible language’ comment. I am not clear of what his intent is. It is a subjective comment (just like mine)
Are your ‘verbose’ comments ladylike, unprofessional– coming from you ?(I think of the beauty editor at Glamour here whereby WE have to conform for validation and to be taken seriously!)
Keep writing and expressing what you have to say. I look forward to reading you again.
Adrienne
Author
‘Notes From the MotherShip ~ The Naked Invisibles’
As an afterthought, who are, “the people who need to read it?”
Why would ‘their’ language requirements be more valid than the points Kambeelah seeks to make in her blog?
I read your article, and as a teacher in an inner U.S. city found it very interesting. I do believe that some values are universal. I try to teach my young male and female students that they are responsible for how they carry themselves, and should have enough self love and self respect to understand that if they project themselves in an undignified manner,it reflects on them sharply in an unbecoming and negative way . I reject all those beliefs that say there is a white middle class manner that refers to anything that is feminine, elegant and beautiful. There are certain universal values that we have from centuries ago that will always remain with us.We have voluntarily given up on ourselves when we believe that only certain things belong to white people.Too many young blacks have fallen for that nonsense and have accepted mediocrity as their birthright. I am appalled by many of us who believe that we are supposed to be loud and boisterous to be heard.An intelligent person does not have to wear combat boots and be aggressive to prove a point.
I respect diversity and individualism, but I often see too many of our young people because of self hatred tredding on the wrong avenues, and saying it is the Black way. Since when were our ancestors unruly, loud, and foolish?It is no secret that men and women are different. I often see too much of Black men today in the behaviour of our young girls. I find it ugly and distateful.Why do so many of us believe that white people created excellent virtues, and that Black people should stifle their own beauty and become atrociously behavior wise?
We need a revamping of values, and a new start over on practically everything within our culture throughout the African Diaspora.
Kameelah,I love your article, it was well written. An apology was not required because you did not do anything wrong.I am always amazed at how critical some of us are, just too plain critical of the wrong things.Keep up the good job.I came across this site just browsing the web. I want to congratulate all of you and also send Saludos(Greetings).
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